Mother:
My daughter is a lesbian. (Her mate is very femine.) She has gained a "spare tire" and ultra-short hair. Wear's men's pants because of her square hips. So, is it normal in Lesbian relationships for one to have to take on the male role? She was a pretty young woman and I accept her sexual orientation---but this look is a problem for me. We are best friends . Would it be that her partner requires a Butch partner as opposed to the Femme? Thanks for any words of insight.

Lesbian.com's response:
I think there is not a "normal" way to be a lesbian. We are quite a diverse community... i myself am as comfortable in a dress as i am in levis and a black t-shirt. some of us prefer to never wear pants and some to only wear men's clothes. We each require and desire different qualities in our lovers and friends. I am sure she is still that beautiful woman you once thought she was... perhaps just her clothes have changed a bit.

I hope this has been helpful.. i wish you well on your journey...

Cheers
Mel
for Lesbian.com

Mother:
Thank you so much for your insight. She is the same beautiful daughter because she has the greatest sense of humor and she is my best friend. I won't let this be a stumbling block any longer.